From a female Nigerian
I have been seeing this guy for 9 months and in those 9 months,
most of the time we had sex, it was unprotected. In fact I was the one
who always insisted that he used protection to avoid any issues.
He
always claimed to get carried away. I didn’t want to be too pushy on the
condom matter because we are both in our 30s and we were looking at
something serious. I once teased him saying “what if I got pregnant” and
his reply was that there was no better time than now. I was still being
careful and tried to take contraceptives to avoid issues.
During
the relationship though I noticed that we weren’t flowing much in terms
of how we relate to each other…he was so quiet and I being a rather
quiet person too, took to going online to find questions to ask a new
boyfriend in order to get to know him better. I observed however that he
was very open and talkative with other people. I also observed that we
hardly ever talked but he would ping and ping.
I mentioned
this to our mutual friend through whom I met him and she said it was
probably because we were still getting to know each other (after 9
months). We both also agreed that the fact that we live in different
towns may also be a reason for our not being close. He lives in Benin
while I live in Lagos
For me, it was time to draw the
relationship to a close but he had a surgery which I was unaware of at
first and this mutual friend of ours called me to say that I should
visit him, adding that I should remember he had no steady girlfriend. I
did, thinking that we could work things out, but in my opinion, we still
didn’t bond, even though I was surprised that he could gather strength
to make love to me while I was nursing him ,lol. I attributed our not
bonding as I would have liked, to the fact that he was ill and had just
been discharged from hospital.
I went back to base but missed
my period after 3 weeks. I called him to inform him but he refused to
get in touch till after 4 days, only for him to tell me that there were
issues
According to him, he had unprotected sex with his ex
who he dated for 4 years, recently and she is also pregnant. Now he
wants her to keep her pregnancy and asked me to get rid of mine, so
depressing!
What would you do if it were you?
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